Dear In It Now

Dear In It Now,

The very fact that you have made it to this blog is proof that you have a foundation, albeit possibly diminished, that is significant. This foundation has gifted you with the intuition to know you are in an unhealthy relationship, it has fueled your vision of a healthier future, and it is capable of so much more. You want to tap into this foundation and strengthen the hell out of it. Build it up so strong that nothing will break it. You need this. A strong foundation will expand your clarity, reinforce your confidence, enable you stand firm in your decision to leave, and propel you toward a positive healthy future.

In the world of personal development, exercises for strengthening your foundation are plentiful. However, the two I will share with you have become mainstays. A huge bonus is they are working a mental muscle, so you can practice them anywhere, at anytime, without anyone knowing. It is your secret power.

Exercise 1: pump yourself up with supportive and concise “I am” statements, aka Positive Affirmations. Initially, borrow the affirmations I offered because I know they are true for all of you. Ultimately, I recommend that you come up with personal Positive Affirmations that are suggestive of who you are.

I am (name) and I am smart, I am (name) and I am strong, I am (name) and I am beautiful, (and if you have children, I am (name) I am a wonderful parent).

Exercise 2: manifest a future of independence, aka Vision. During this exercise, you are free. Create your version of a heathy positive lifestyle and be sure to offer as many details as possible (if you can’t close your eyes and feel it, smell it, live it, keep adding details until you can). Then, consciously feel the freedom of living your new life. If you cannot tap into your feelings (as often times those in unhealthy relationships detach) try reaching far back into the most wonderful memories where your confidence was obvious. Generate the emotions you felt during those times and attach them to your vision.

Please never forget how strong you are and what you are capable of.

~Meghan

I will always be transparent with you. I am not a professional therapist. I am woman that was in an unhealthy abusive marriage until I tapped into my foundation. I have worked hard using these exercises and many others for the last several years to mold myself into the woman I knew I was capable of becoming, a strong, determined mother/ entrepreneur with a PTG (Post Traumatic Growth) mindset. I hope that by passing these along you too will begin your journey forward toward a healthier future.